Finding Hygge: Part 2B

Hail! Thanks for stopping back in, not-so-gentle readers.

It’s been another fun-filled day, waiting for MDU to show their asses up and follow through with repair they left on my door the day before Thanksgiving. Let’s hope that they don’t stand me up twice in a row…

I figured I should be productive if I am forced to be home on a day like today.

I’m working on my Hygge inspired bedroom project again today. It’s time to get the black paint onto the plywood! The black paint will help the look of the weird spaces between the cedar planks when they don’t quite line up perfectly.

Heck, even the dog came downstairs to help….

Also, just a couple side notes:

This wouldn’t take so long if I would just use a regular sized paint roller. Nope I used the little one. It’s isn’t just how this room will look when it’s done that will be hygge. It’s the time, effort, and mindfulness of the project itself.

That being said, though…. it sucks living in a construction zone.

On another side note…. MDU never did show up…. for the second fucking time.


Finding Hygge: Part 2A

Hello, not-so-gentle readers! So, the bedroom remodel has commenced!

We started by ripping all the drywall from the bottom walls and putting up plywood. It took several hours, and it’s all we got done in one session.

My wonderful husband-type manfolk had to do quite a bit of rebuilding and removing rotted boards on the wall frame to complete this stage of the project. It’s what happens when your basement floods with a foot of water, I suppose.

So…. anywho! Stage 1 – done!!!

Stuff I Like: Podcasts, Part #2

Just dropping a link for another of my favorite podcasts, Saga Thing. It’s two guys, chit-chatting about the Icelandic Sagas with some good historical information…. and they’re great.

And you have to enjoy the afterbits when they determine body counts, who gets voted off the island (Iceland) and the best bloodshed and nickname.

Here it is! Saga Thing

Finding Hygge: 3b – Little Comforts

Hello again not-so-gentle Readers!

This is another trip blog, part of my Finding Hygge series.

A big part of Finding Hygge is slowing down, being cozy, and enjoying small pleasures and comforts.

Here are a few of my little comforts from our SD trip….

As wonderful as the vacation was, it was nice to be home…. to my own little comforts that give me the feels, make me cozy, and help me find hygge.

Finding Hygge: Part 3a – Little Adventures

Hail Readers!

Here are a few little adventures we had in South Dakota.

We took the little menfolk types to Flags and Wheels in Rapid City (about an hour drive from the cabin) to drive go-carts and play arcade games.

The smallest menfolk were a little apprehensive on the first go, but once they got the hang of the course and the “cars” they had a blast! The biggest of the menfolk paid for “extreme go-carting” and enjoyed it thoroughly. They even give you printouts of your lap times and stats.

One day we also spent at WaTiki water park, which is fantastic. There are tons of slides, an aquatic adventure park, hot tub, food, and an arcade. It’s expensive and crowded, but a lot of fun.

I had the privilege of having front row seats to the aquatic park, complete with a giant tidal wave every 10 minutes….. it was the only open table in the damn place.

As soon as the bell would ring, signaling that the wave was imminent… kids (and adults) would scurry over to the shore and wait to be pelted with a ton of incoming water. It was comical, I’ll admit.

I really think it was the favorite part of the trip for my Little Menfolk. My stepson also gave them great advice (see above pics): “Hold your britches up, or else you’ll be mortified!”

We left the little menfolk with the other adults one night and went out, just me and the hubby. We had dinner at the Irish pub (that wasn’t at all Irish) and I had the best Reuben ever!

And then we went on a ghost tour at the Oyster Bay/Fairmont.

Side note: I won $640 total off of $20. Not bad.

Meanwhile, The Little Heathens went out with the other adults for pizza and soda

All the youngin’s had fun at the Kodiak Arcade & Shooting gallery. I’d recommend the Bosco sticks and don’t forget to pet Copper!

All of our mini adventures were in between conversation, reading, cards, and hot tubbing.

It was a much needed and wonderful little vacation. Definitely full of hygge.

Finding Hygge: Part 3

Welcome not-so-gentle readers!

Welcome to another post about Finding Hygge! Part 3 of this series will be about our annual extended family trip with the hubby’a family.

Hygge is not an easy thing to explain, but it is easy to give examples of. One thing that helps me find Hygge is nature, food, and family. This trip does that for me.

Every year, our extended family on the manfolk side takes a week long trip to the Black Hills of South Dakota.

(The view outside our cabin)

We have adventures, enjoy the beautiful scenery, eat lots of food, and spend time together as an extended family unit.

(Wintery scenes from the cabin)

Although winter isn’t the most fun driving conditions, it’s the time of year when we need this the most. This is the time of year I need to de-stress from work, school events, the holiday nonsense and when I need a reason to enjoy winter. And that, friends, is Hygge. Finding happy in little things and moments, especially when you need them most.

So… part 3’s of this series will be little updates about the 2017 trip.


Raising Heathens: Service To Community

Hail Heathen Readers!

Today is a proud mom moment and an example of how I’m raising Heathens.

We all know that Community is very important to Heathens. Well, my Heathen Readers know that….

To my non-Heathen readers…. you should be told that Community is important to most Heathens. The only difference from Heathen group to Heathen group is what they consider “Community”. For the sake of ease, I’ll just use my example.

“Communities” rank in the following order of importance…. Immediate Family, Kindred, Local Community.

In other words…. inner and outer yards. (We will save that for another post though… this post is about my Heathen Littles)

Anywho, community is important in our Heathenry. We serve our community and honor the honorable. One way my Heathen Boys did that this year was to organize a holiday card drive for Law Enforcement, medical staff, ambulance staff, fire department personnel, and correctional center staff who sacrificed time with their families on the holidays in order to serve their communities by providing emergency services while the rest of us ate dinner and opened presents.

I’m a former correctional officer and a military veteran myself… so I know what that is like and have relayed that to my littles. Their grandmother has worked her way up the chain of command and is the Chief of Security at a prison, too, so this is something that is close to their hearts and that they can relate to, even at 10 and 11 years old.

So other than just a proud Heathen-Mama moment, what is the point of my post? My point is…. it’s not hard to get kids, especially little kids, to do something for your community. You don’t have to go out and fundraise for millions of dollars… it can be as simple as getting people to donate some filled out holiday cards for those who can’t be home with their families.

Update…. we delivered all the cards Christmas Eve. The boys were able to gather over 200 cards from their school and from members of the community. Everyone was very gracious in receiving the cards. We delivered to the fire department, police department, sheriff’s department, the ambulance shack, the emergency, the jail, and the women’s prison nearby.

Raising Heathens: Stop Excluding Them

Welcome back to another proud moment in my life raising Heathen Littles!

Recently, my youngest boy played Santa Clause in the Christmas Play.

No, you read that right. My Heathen boy was Santa in the school Christmas play. No, it wasn’t the Winter Music Program, or the Holiday Program…. it was the Christmas program.

I live in North Dakota, not-so-gentle Readers. Not just NoDak, but small town NoDak. The kind of small town NoDak when Wednesday nights are reserved for church and catechism or bible study.

That being said… there are very few people other than Christians, and our multi-path pagan group of 20 is considered a big group… and odd.

It may disappoint you, but I am not the Heathen parent that makes demands on things such as the Christmas program, or having Good Friday off as a holiday from school. I don’t demand that my child has equal opportunity to share his belief system taught at home or insist that there are no mentions of an Abrahamic God in his school. This is where we live, this is what the Norns have chosen for us.

We live life, co-mingling with Christians, and is probably much more peaceful than it was for my Heathen/Scandinavian ancestors when Christianity began its take over.

So… as a Heathen parent, how do I deal with it? Well, fairly easy, if I must say. I don’t pound into my kids’ head that Heathenry is the only option… I am a council member for a multi-path pagan group that also has Shinto, Druids, Kemetics, and others. It would be super hypocritical for me to tell my children that those religions are ok, but that Christianity isn’t, don’t you think?

Also, my kids’ grandparents and dad and step-dad are Christian. Why would I condemn those people in their lives? Why would I criticize their faith when all of the above (mostly) have accepted my brand of Heathen and do not involve themselves with contradicting what I teach my boys?

I let my kids be involved. Even if it includes Christian theology. Why would I not? It’s fun for them.

Now, do we hide the fact that we are Heathen. Not at all. People have questions, and sometimes they ask my kids. The boys are confident enough that they have answers to the most common questions and if they don’t know an answer they refer the question and the asker to me.

I guess I don’t run into the same issues that other parents have had to deal with. It may also help that I don’t pull my kids out of programs, or make a huge deal out of things. I’ve kept my kids out of school to celebrate holidays, and have never had an issue. My kids have worn their BS&R sweatshirts to school, without any problems. Most people that ask are just genuinely curious.

Have I run into assholes? Of course I have, but I’ve never had any issues putting those ignorant bastards in their place and they don’t push at us again. I also have a Calvary to call on in the event that I’d ever have serious opposition. I’m 100% certain all of BS&R would be standing in the school office the minute I called on them, if needed, to deal with anything. Again, I know, I’m far more fortunate than others because of the strength of my group.

So, I guess my point is… as long as my kids think it’s fun to play Santa in the play I’m not going to bring my Heathen Hammer down and say “No! That’s not what we do!”

I won’t force my kids to sit in the sidelines and make Heathen martyrs out of them. If they choose to do that later in their lives, and decide that all in their own, so be it.

Until then, I’m going to let them be kids and leave the worrying about the big stuff to the adults. Like it or not, whether you think I’m right or not, it’s what I do. And it’s been working so far.

Finding Hygge: Part 1

Welcome not-so-gentle Heathen and non-Heathen readers!

Today, I’d like to talk about my quest to find “Hygge”. You’re probably asking yourself, “What the fuck is ‘hygge’ and what does this have to do with Heathenry?” I’ll do my best to explain, however it isn’t something concrete or something you can give a checklist on how to find and conquer.

A couple years ago a “trend” hit the internet. It was the Danish concept of hygge (pronounced hue-gah, not hoo-gah). Hygge House has the best definition of hygge which is: “a Danish word used when acknowledging a feeling or moment, whether alone or with friends, at home or out, ordinary or extraordinary as cozy, charming or special.”

According to Hygge House, the Danes use this idea of hygge to help them get through the endless, dark, and frigid winter. As a resident of a state that has many months of endless, dark, and frigid winter… I find this a great and wonderful concept! Let’s face it… winter in North Dakota can last from September to June, if it tries hard, and the 40 mph winds and -40* wind chill can really wear on a person’s happiness. On top of that, we don’t really have mountains and trees to capture the beauty of the ice and falling snow. To be honest, we look more like the frozen tundra when January comes barreling in.

You will find “hygge inspired” everything on the internet… from recipes to decor to… whatever-the-fuck someone on Etsy is trying really hard to sell this month. Truth be told though, it’s really about what makes you happy, cozy, relaxed… What invites you to slow down and appreciate a moment? What do you want that picture of you and your kids snuggling on the couch in the middle of winter to include? That will be hygge for you.

So… what is it for me and how am I getting there?
What makes me happy is simplicity and routine. Softer, earthy colors in my decor. Natural materials like stone and wood. No clutter. Softer lighting. Candles. Food. Warmth. Soft, squidgy materials. My kith and kin. Laughter. Card games.

This whole blog series will be how I’m incorporating the idea of “hygge”. A lot of it will concern the remodel of my home into my idea of “cozy”.

So… what does this have to do with Heathenry?
My brand of Heathenry is centered around Home and Hearth. My family, kindred, and my home are the centers of my world and my belief system… so a “hygge home and hearth” can only help with that, right?

Stay tuned, not-so-gentle readers, I’m hoping to post a lot about Finding Hygge in the future months.


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